Live-in Relationship
We have seen the movie ‘Salaam Namaste’, starring Preity Zinta and Saif Ali Khan ,the story is based on ‘Live-in relationship,movie showcasing ‘Live-in’ situation between a boy and a girl. And me thinks that Mr. Yash Chopra could’nt have found better actors then ‘Preity’ and ‘Saif’ because they both actually do follow somewhat similar pattern in real life other than reel life. (obviously with different partners).
Saif since his spilt with long-time wife Amrita Singh, is currently living with his angrezi girl-friend Roza and Perity has live-in boyfriend Ness Wadia. Anyways the focus of my post is not the movie but the theme of the movie.With the increase in number of couples opting for ‘cohabitation‘ over ‘marriage‘, be it in western countries or India, As for me i would rather stick to the old school of thoughts and choose marriage over the other.
Reason’s are very simple -The love that we all want from a partner is not possible without both having the commitment to try to make it last. Cooperation, compromise, that sort of thing. There’s a saying, “Happiness in marriage is not so much FINDING the right person as BEING the right person.”
If it’s easy to change one partner for another, where’s the incentive to develop staying power in a relationship? Instead people will think “I’m upset at my partner which means I’m with the wrong person. I’m going to get out so I can hook up with the right person.” It’s human nature, and and i think that this approach is creating increased numbers of people without the ability to sustain a long-term relationship.
Lets find few Reasons Why Marriage Is Better than Cohabitation :1. Cohabitors have a different perspective on time than marrieds have. Marriage, by definition, means, “I will always be there for you.” . In contrast, cohabitation for most seems like, “I will be here only as long as the relationship meets my needs.”
2. Cohabitation also affects the cohabitors’ children. In general, children’s emotional development is poorer if a parent is cohabiting than if a parent is married. This poor development is partly due to the high risk that the couple will break up.
3. Cohabiting women are more likely than married women to suffer physical and sexual abuse. Some estimate that aggression is at least twice as common among cohabitors as it is among marrieds.
4. Married men earn more than single men (nearly twice as much) and married women have access to more of men’s earnings than if they are single or cohabiting. This may be explained by the increased financial responsibility men feel when they marry many men have been heard to say, “Marriage made me get more serious about my career and making a good living.”
5. Cohabitors generally do not reap the physical health benefits enjoyed by married couples. Non-married people feel less healthy and have higher rates of mortality than the married. Compared to singles, married people as a group are also emotionally happier.
6. Some people would be surprised to learn that marrieds have better sex lives than cohabitors. Although cohabitors have sex at least as often as marrieds, they are less likely to say they enjoy it. Marriage adds the essential ingredients of commitment and security to one’s sex life, making it more satisfying.
8. Cohabitation may affect relationships with parents. In many families cohabitation is still considered morally wrong and embarrassing to extended family members. Cohabitors from those families risk damaging their relationships with their parents and experiencing the withdrawal of parental and extended family support for the relationship.
Many people imagine that living together before marriage resembles taking a car for a test drive. The “trial period” gives people a chance to discover whether they are compatible.The problem with the car analogy: the car doesn’t have hurt feelings if the driver dumps it back at the used car lot and decides not to buy it. The analogy works great if you picture yourself as the driver. It stinks if you picture yourself as the car.